Memory for Coco who was with us a few months

 When we first had Coco, we already knew he was not well but we wanted him to live as long as possible. He brought life and happiness to our family and he had gone through so much. He was a happy and wonderful bunny which is like a son to me. He had gone through and op which was unavoidable and lived for almost to 3 weeks longer after.  Just to let people out there know that if you are not ready to have a commitment to have a pet long term, please do not think of getting one. I love animals and tend to adopt most of them. Coco was another one that became part of my family.  we miss him, Alfie the dog and also Jovian the cat. They were such innocent, cute lovely wonderful companions and imagine all the mistreatment that they had before being rescued.

Presently we have Hammy which is my mom's hamster, Aster my lovely cat, Puppy which is my daughter's lovely bunny. Bless them a healthy and wonderful life. They are all healthy and well check by good vets every now and then. Also we have fishes which are really strong. 

All these pets that we have brought into our loving home and as a family, we give them the best treatment. Personally I feel that somehow we bonded with these loving creatures of god and they have given us the best part of thier lives, be it be good or bad times, they will and always be our family and love ones.  I keep all their urns at home cause they are home. 

Life goes on

Days have pass by....... At the start I felt Alfie stepping on my bed like he normally does like when he was walking, hearing hhis barks and now I even see him at the food bowl place and at the door.  I do miss him but there is a saying if you love that person let him go.  I know he is in a good place now.  I have his friend Bear bear to keep me company till I die.  Alfie is also here with us at home and we are all in the same room.  I am returning back to work to earn some money.  Life goes on although I am still a little bit lost.  Alfie has been my best baby and best friend.  Alfie, mummy hopes that you are doing well and find a good place to reincarnate.  Dear lord, please take care of my little one who has gone to heaven, He is a very good boy and all of us love him lots which are beyond words.  Please bless him and shower all the love that he deserves.  

P/S : Alfie baby. We have sent a friend to you.  I hope you will be happy to see him. Love & miss you lots 

Sending off day

Thank you  for being the greatest friend, companion and my most love baby.  We will miss you and love you alot.  We are happy that you have move on to a world that is free from pain and definitely a better world.  Like your sister said, Eat well and Live well up in heaven.  Please take good care of yourself and I will see you in my next life.  Today is the day you leave this world, rest assured we will be fine and always you will be in our hearts.  Your next brother or sister if there will be, I promise to do better and I hope you will give your blessings to them.  Bye baby ....... 

Memorial for a very special baby boy that came into my life

              

                                           Pass away at home on 2nd June 2020

Some of you who has read my posts at the beginning when I first posted about Alfie my special baby boy that appeared in my life and made it so special will identify how much I love this little fellow.  Though he was with us for such a few short years after I adopted him, he changed my life and my family’s life.  He has departed into another better and pain free world now.  Thank you for making such an impact in my life.  Mummy and the whole family loves you so much and miss you so much. The memories you have left us will forever be ingrained in us and you will always and forever be in our hearts. Our greatest wish for you now honey is to go to a better place and be reincarnated. If our next life should cross paths, I hope to have you in my life again. I love you  so much honey. Thank you. All of us will be fine and will keep well. Please be well and forever stay happy and as loved as you were here with us.  You have brought us so much joy that no one can replace. Remember to us you have always been a human baby and if anyone says different, just ignore.

From mummy who will forever love you no matter where you go

Desiree loves you very much and hopes that you will have a happier life up in heaven. 

From your sister Desiree who loves you so much



You will knock on the toilet door when i’m bathing just to drink water. I will miss that.

From daddy who miss and love you so much

Be there for each other

No matter what happens in a family, the truth is blood is thicker than water whether one wants to believe it.  Although my sisters and me have our differences, we were born of the same parents.  My dad has moderate dementia which is very challenging at this point of time, no matter what happens we stick by my dad and give my mom as much support as possible.  Eventually we willl learn to talk to each other but let nature takes its place.

Encounter with an elderly man had lost his way home (Part 1)

I had just came home after an outing with my family when I found an elderly man standing at the lift to go up today at the ground floor level.  We asked him if he wanted to go up because he was standing at the lift there and he said yes he did, when we entered the lift, we ask him to which level but all he repeatedly said was the block number which did not match the block we were staying in.  I suspected he might have lost his way home and so I asked my family to go home first while I figure out where he stayed.  He kept repeating a phone number which he said was his daughter contact number.  Called the number once but was rejected and so I tried my luck again with the same number and to my surprise the lady pose a question back to me if I was with her father and I said yes I was.  She had called the police on this matter and was actually relieve to hear her father was safe and sound.  Next I took him to a place to sit down while waiting for the police and the family to come to the block, I felt that he was cold and suspected that he had dementia because when I ask him questions, he seems confuse and the answers did not really match.  I wrap around him my shawl and told him to cover himself because I could feel he was really shivering and he was very tired to a point that he was trying to doze off all the time when he was with me.  He refuse the drinks and food when I ask if I could get him anything.  In my mind, I was worried as I could feel he was hypo and that he was a diabetic.  The police arrived minutes later and I told them that he was afraid of the police as he verbalize earlier to me before their arrival.  He remembered he had an encounter with them before and this triggered the fear in him.  Not long after the police arrived, the helper had rushed down.  I handed the helper and the elderly man to the police before proceeding home.  Called the daughter on the way home and she mention to me that its multiple times that he had lost his way home and that always there would be angels above looking after him and making sure he safely made his way home.  He was suffering from Alzheimer and he was a diabetic with multiple medical problems, I was glad to fine him when I did as he could have just fainted,   He happens to be in the mid-stage of Alzheimer which happens to be the most difficult stage as the challenges such as wandering becomes more of a danger , behavior wise also.  I hope that people who read this, please remember that there is always help out there.  I will blog more later for the updates on how this elderly man is now.  Hopefully by tomorrow, he will feel a lot better.  

Life is still normal for dementia people, just as to how you want to view it

These are my wonderful parents but yes sometimes annoying.  My dad has mild to moderate dementia but he looks and acts normal.  Its the way and quality of life that they live with family and friends.  Most people would think that this is not possible.  My dad is one of the living examples.  He is healthy and lives a wonderful life.  Yes people are right when they say its a rocky and tedious journey for the family but you know what, it is actually the way you handle things and also find resources that will help.  Do you think these people who suffer from dementia in nursing homes are contented and happy?  Alot of them are not happy and instead they will deteriorate at a faster rate be it physical, mentally or psychological.  Ever wondered why?  They are just like you and me, they want love, to be acknowledge, needs to be met, freedom to decide how and want they want their life to be.  They need to be surrounded by people who love them and are there for them no matter how things are be it good or bad days.  My advice to families who have dementia parents or love ones, please treat them as normal as possible and shower them with lots of love and support them in whatever decisions they make.  I use to work in a hospital and seeing these patients who have hardly any families that come and see them or even ask for placement in a nursing home is a sad scene.  The road ahead may be difficult and yes like me, I even had to give up my full time job and now only work as part-time and I also had to give up alot of things that I ever wanted before but I am happy and contented that I am loved by these wonderful people no matter what has happened before. The care and concern that my dad showers me with even though he has dementia touches my heart.  As for my mom, she loves my dad alot more than anyone can imagine although health wise is not good,  she is always there for my dad..... They come in as a fitted pair of gloves. 

Alfie's Grooming Day

 

Today was Alfie's grooming day. The groomers he goes to gets 5 stars for treating him with fantastic grooming expertise and also professionalism.  Alfie has incontinence and he is 10 years of age.  Everyday my mom had to mop clean wherever he pee and also change the newspaper daily, we tried many ways to curb this problem.  Each diaper we use was not effective, but today we found a workable diaper which we would never have thought to use.  Guess which diaper it was....... Baby diapers, size XL.  Found that it was not only effective in him not peeing around the house but he actually was able to pee in it.  He has a tendency that each time he soils the diapers and feels uncomfortable, he would want a change just like a human baby.  Interesting how he is similar to a human baby.  If you feel you have the same problem, try baby diapers.